The Healing Power of Conversations

One of the most credible ways to destress a mind, other than distracting it momentarily, is to engage in a productive conversation with another mind that is without any trace of stress. The mind without stress is the mind that is closing in or established in wisdom.

Leadership is often challenging. It causes substantial stress, physically and emotionally. Once stressed it is natural for people to feel dejected, frustrated as well as exhausted. To seek reprieve, most pursue some kind of addiction which, in time, causes serious ailments like diabetics, debility, hypertension, and insomnia. Thus, it will not be incorrect to conclude that stress is a silent killer. So how do we kill stress, before it kills us?

There is a wise saying in Ayurveda, “If the mind is happy, the body is healthy. If the mind is not happy, it will be a matter of time before the body is infested with diseases.” Therefore, keeping one’s mind happy is the key. And, believe it or not, it is easier than one might think.

According to Vedic Rishis (sages), the mind and brain are not the same. They also profess in various texts that we are neither the body nor the mind. That we are Atman, pure conscious energy that can neither be born nor dead. This is the ultimate Truth realizing which we can achieve a state of perpetual happiness and bliss.

Now there are many scholars and followers of Vedic philosophy who know the truth and yet, they are anything but happy. Why that be so? There is an ancient Sanskrit parable worthy of recollecting here:

Bhagirath one of the celebrated Vedic king asked his Guru Tritala, “I am aware of the Truth – that I am the Aatmana, that I am neither the body nor the mind. Yet, I suffer loneliness and pain. Why is it so?”

Tritala replied “Because you only know it and don’t understand it, let alone realize it. Detachment with the relatives and friends, equanimity in pleasure and pain, love for solitude, being firmly established in self-knowledge comes naturally when you understand and, then, realize that Truth.”

It is very important to know the clear distinction between knowing, understanding and realizing. It is one thing to know about money, another to understand its functioning and completely different thing to realize it. Knowing the name of a person is not the same as understanding the person. It is only when you realize a person that you are able to develop a productive relationship with that person.

It is very important to know the clear distinction between knowing, understanding and realizing. It is one thing to know about money, another to understand its functioning and completely different thing to realize it. Knowing the name of a person is not the same as understanding the person. It is only when you realize a person that you are able to develop a productive relationship with that person.

Most often leaders tend to know that it is futile to act under influence of passion, intoxication or frustration. And yet they become impulsive and make decisions only to regret later. Most cannot explain the reason for the same. The answer is simple: they only know the factors, or at best understand them. But they fail to realize the consequences they yield. As a result, they suffer significant stress and pain.

Stress in the simplest of sense is the absence of productive thoughts and ideas in mind. It is very important to understand that mind is a series of thought positive, negative and neutral. Stress happens when you are pushed by your impulses to achieve something within constraints that are not conducive. Instead of persevering with positive thoughts to find a productive solution for a problem, you tend to impose yourself on your mind to achieve “difficult” things in a way without thinking about it or, even, finding a credible alternative solution.

Stress in the simplest of sense is the absence of productive thoughts and ideas in mind. It is very important to understand that mind is a series of thought positive, negative and neutral. Stress happens when you are pushed by your impulses to achieve something within constraints that are not conducive. Instead of persevering with positive thoughts to find a productive solution for a problem, you tend to impose yourself on your mind to achieve “difficult” things in a way without thinking about it or, even, finding a credible alternative solution.

Therefore, if you can keep your mind engrossed in productive thoughts that yield solutions instead of brooding over the problem – the stress would come down drastically.

One of the most credible ways to destress a mind, other than distracting it momentarily, is to engage in a productive conversation with another mind that is without any trace of stress. The mind without stress is the mind that is closing in or established in wisdom. Unfortunately, such a mind is hard to find.

One of the most credible ways to destress a mind, other than distracting it momentarily, is to engage in a productive conversation with another mind that is without any trace of stress. The mind without stress is the mind that is closing in or established in wisdom. Unfortunately, such a mind is hard to find.

Always remember that the solution to your problem(s) is only within you. If you do not see it, it is because your judgment is clouded by confusions arising from a stressed mind. Conversing with a mind free of stress can most certainly clear your mind of confusion thereby allowing you to identify and implement your solutions.

Always remember that the solution to your problem(s) is only within you. If you do not see it, it is because your judgment is clouded by confusions arising from a stressed mind. Conversing with a mind free of stress can most certainly clear your mind of confusion thereby allowing you to identify and implement your solutions.

As Adi Shankaracharya says “By being in the company of the wise, we find peace of mind. From this peace of mind, we are freed of our stress and achieve peace. From this peace, we achieve a state of perfect mental equilibrium where we tend to see opportunity in every threat and, thereafter, are never overwhelmed by our emotions.”

Bhartrihari in Neeti Shataka suggests “Both the problem and the solution are within you. If you are in a problem, only you can get out of it. Others can only provide ways.” Every time I convey this quote, most tend to suggest “I’ve tried enough but haven’t found a way. I am stuck. I don’t think I can ever get out of this rut.” Amusingly, the answer is their statement “… I don’t think I can ever get out of it.” To find a solution, you must first believe that you can find it. And once you’ve found it, you must be pursuing the solution with conviction.

Bhartrihari in Neeti Shataka suggests “Both the problem and the solution are within you. If you are in a problem, only you can get out of it. Others can only provide ways.” Every time I convey this quote, most tend to suggest “I’ve tried enough but haven’t found a way. I am stuck. I don’t think I can ever get out of this rut.” Amusingly, the answer is their statement “… I don’t think I can ever get out of it.” To find a solution, you must first believe that you can find it. And once you’ve found it, you must be pursuing the solution with conviction.

The reason why most people cannot find a way out of their problem is that they are intensely demotivated. Although the reasons for demotivation might differ from others, the core reason is often their own mind.

Here’s something more. Most leaders I speak to know the reason for their demotivation. They also have the solution but are often not able to work through it. They are deterred by some unconscious hurdles within. Often these hurdles are emotional; the pain of the past. Such emotional issues can seldom be healed by medications. Most often such emotional issues are not even diagnosed, continuing to create countless impediments in the life of individuals.

The only credible way to assuage such emotional issues is through intelligent conversations with an individual driven by knowledge and wisdom. Through parables, tales, and quotes of commensurate insight instead of lame gossips or monologues. And most often such conversation yields brilliant results.

Everything you see, hear, feel and perceive are essentially a matter of idea and thought in your mind. Love, hate, fear, anger, aversion, etc. are all of the minds. As already mentioned, the mind is not the brain. We know this for a fact when even the best medicine that can tame the brain seldom helps in overpowering detrimental thoughts inside the mind.

Modern science hasn’t effectively understood the mind to this day. On the contrary, a great amount of Vedic literature from Vedas, Upanishads, Aranyakas, Brahmanas until Ramayana and Mahabharata speaks only about the mind.

According to the Rishis “Winning the mind is as good as winning the whole world.” And to win the mind one must watch one’s thought. If 70% of the body is water, 100% of the mind is thoughts. When ideas are blindly borrowed without thought, then that mind is bound to suffer.

According to the Rishis “Winning the mind is as good as winning the whole world.” And to win the mind one must watch one’s thought. If 70% of the body is water, 100% of the mind is thoughts. When ideas are blindly borrowed without thought, then that mind is bound to suffer.

The mind exists to observe, think, understand and, then, react. When we skip thinking we seldom understand anything and, in the end, blindly observe and react causing significant problems.

The problem with most people today is that they are driven by blind comparison and silly ideas. You know it is bad when you have never asked why you are doing something without thinking or understanding that which you are doing.

Humans essentially pride in their ability to “think”, and yet our species are today in a direction where thinking is being curtailed at all stages of their life, starting from familial, academic, professional until social. And since a great many people don’t think and that results in great many confusion of the mind. Such confusions can be cleared only through a methodical conversation driven by knowledge and wisdom.

Humans essentially pride in their ability to “think”, and yet our species are today in a direction where thinking is being curtailed at all stages of their life, starting from familial, academic, professional until social. And since a great many people don’t think and that results in great many confusion of the mind. Such confusions can be cleared only through a methodical conversation driven by knowledge and wisdom.

The Vedic Leadership Counselling™ Conversations can take anywhere between 40-100 hours of conversations, spread across 90 days, depending on the counselee. It can be conducted in person, phone or Skype – depending on the comfort and convenience of the counselor and counselee.

It begins by understanding the counselee, the challenges (s)he faces and identifying the roots of those challenges. Once the challenges are identified we present a credible actionable solution. While we do recommend certain easy to perform Dhyana (meditation) and Pranayama (breathing exercises) we do not prescribe any medication(s) and, yet, tend to achieve promising results within the stipulated time frame.

For more information about Vedic Leadership Counselling™ feel free to contact:

U Mahesh Prabhu | Founder & Director | Vedic Management Centre

+1 917 387 2735 (US) / +91 951 129 6199 (India) / mahesh@vedic-management.com

 

April 8, 2019

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