You are worried, concerned, and struggling to handle your fears and anxiety. And with all the possible help, you are at best only able to suppress the situation through momentary distraction. So, what do you do to handle the Fear and resultant Anxiety? That concern about your job? The lack of clarity you would have when you lose your job. How will you pay the mortgages? What will happen to your children? Would your spouse be with you? What about the comforts? The more you think, the most certain outcome would be resulting in chaos in your mind. And the adverse ramifications it would have on your life is going to be disastrous. So how do you come out of this unhealthy situation? How can you uproot your Fears and shunt that anxiety out of your mind and lives for good?
The first thing you need to do is to understand that fear reigns supreme in the absence of Hope. Also, Hope and Fear both are figments of your mind’s imagination. The mind is not the Brain. While the Brain is tangible; the mind is not. It is crucial to realize that Hope or Fear; they have equal opportunity to become a reality.
When you choose fear, your mind, being grounded in unsavory thoughts, tends to act detrimentally, resulting in adverse results. In contrast, Hope, giving your mind a Ray of Hope, will work focusing on the solutions, increasing your chance of succeeding.
The focus is the key. If you focus on things that incite Hope, your mind will be bereft of fear. On the contrary, if you focus on things that induce fear, your mind will be deprived of Hope. If you intend to succeed, it is better to choose Hope. And to want to hope you must decide to train your mind to sort scores of data and information fed into it; consciously as well as unconsciously.
You must, therefore, discipline yourself. Not the one where you do things at a particular time. It is more about knowing what to seek and what not to; sort of advanced meditation, where you are neither static nor with closed eye. On the contrary, your eyes are wide open and body probably in motion. Yet you are conscious of everything around you and trying to be sure if what you are observing, listening, and reading is worth your time. It is about rejecting what you do not need and processing what you need rightly.
To determine “right” from “wrong” in this context would be to know if something adds to fear and your anxiety; if they do, they are most certainly wrong; and if not, they are just the things you need.
The crucial thing in life is not as much as knowledge but wisdom. The experience will tell you how to do, whereas wisdom will enable you to decide whether or not you must do something and when to do that right thing. Wisdom is possible when we process everything with deep thoughts, retrospection, and meditation. Wisdom is a result of a long time in solitude.
If you are spending too much time with people mired in fears, most certainly, your mind would be adversely affected. Therefore, it is of paramount importance that you stay from such individuals. The only way you can do that more often is by seeking the company of yourself – solitude.
It is certainly not easy to be alone. Most people wrongly presume solitude as loneliness. That is because when unwanted adverse thoughts tend to stem in our minds. And we then tend to run away from these thoughts and right into the company of people who sow seeds of fear.
The key then is to retrospect. Question every thought. When you do that, your fear will go along with the anxiety. That is because fear is possible only when ignorance engulfs your mind. Ignorance can be destroyed only through reason; the reason is better through questions — question everything. Be objective. And in no time will you be liberated from your fear and anxiety.
To conclude, here is a timeless talisman by Rishi Vamadeva:
“Surrender only unto your true-self; respect only the wise; question everything; never entertain self-righteous fools; retrospect vehemently on the validity of your knowledge; then you shall attain bliss in life.”